Aki

I can relate to you for I am the eldest among us as well.


Being the eldest can serve both as an advantage and a burden for us. Maybe you think it's more of a burden than an advantage. Then why don't we just use the advantages in order to lessen its burden on us?


Seeing your age range, I'm guessing your sister is still really young. You may be fighting over small things like who owns this, who owns that, who broke this, who broke that, who lost this, who lost that, who should have this, who should have that. However, there might be bigger issues that I am not aware of. Being the older one, I think you understand that you are responsible for keeping things in order between the two of you. But, what our parents can't understand sometimes is that our patience has its limit as well.


First, at the time of your argument with your sister, try to settle the situation by a simple talk. One of you speaks while the other listens. No one should interrupt the other because it may cause another set of shouts or whatsoever.


Second, if your little sister just won't listen and you just can't contain it anymore, talk to your parents. Don't go all out and say, "I hate my sister! She's such a b*tch!" No, don't do that. Ask them if they can spare you a minute and that you have to talk to them about your situation with your sister. Explain to them in detail the times that, according to you, your sister was the one at fault. Tell them how hard you're trying to keep a cool relationship with your sister, but she just won't cooperate.


Lastly, breathe. Younger siblings can definitely get into our nerves, but it is our responsibility to understand that we are older and we know better. If you feel like you're going to burst, hold your breath for 10 seconds, then breathe out. That should help you calm down and think more appropriately.


I hope my advice can help you have a better relationship with your family. ^^