Monday, December 17, 2012
My Apologies
This site has been inactive due to my busy senior high school year. I'm really sorry for not being able to help you with your problems. However, I will be answering all entries on December 22, 2012, and I will be more active from then on. :)
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Akiko901
Hi.
This happened to our group before, and I can say that once a silent war starts between friends, it can be awkward for them even after reconciliation. Why? Because it w till always be marked in their minds what the other did, causing whatever misunderstanding they had. They will always remember that.
In your case, she happened to be your best friend, and you didn't talk for three days. Maybe you argued over something serious? Because if it is just a little thing, she could have just brushed it off. Seeing that she did not, and even worse, she seems to have replaced you, your argument might have had a huge impact on her.
The best way to solve conflicts between friends is by talking. Have a conversation, just you and her. Don't go off telling her that she's such a b*tch or what. That will definitely not help. Tell her that you need to talk about something serious and that you need her to listen intently. Tell her how much you value your friendship and that you don't want to lose everything you gained together. Tell her how much it hurts you seeing her with a "new best friend" and ask her why she seems to be so distant to you now. Assure you had already forgotten about your previous argument and tell her that you will not let it ruin the bonds you have.
Tell her how much you want to go back to how you two used to be and how much you long for her company again. Your best friends, right? Therefore you should stick together no matter what, for best friends love you not only for what you have, but also for your weaknesses that give them a room to give you support and be with you through thick and thin.
I wish for the very best in your friendship. ^^
This happened to our group before, and I can say that once a silent war starts between friends, it can be awkward for them even after reconciliation. Why? Because it w till always be marked in their minds what the other did, causing whatever misunderstanding they had. They will always remember that.
In your case, she happened to be your best friend, and you didn't talk for three days. Maybe you argued over something serious? Because if it is just a little thing, she could have just brushed it off. Seeing that she did not, and even worse, she seems to have replaced you, your argument might have had a huge impact on her.
The best way to solve conflicts between friends is by talking. Have a conversation, just you and her. Don't go off telling her that she's such a b*tch or what. That will definitely not help. Tell her that you need to talk about something serious and that you need her to listen intently. Tell her how much you value your friendship and that you don't want to lose everything you gained together. Tell her how much it hurts you seeing her with a "new best friend" and ask her why she seems to be so distant to you now. Assure you had already forgotten about your previous argument and tell her that you will not let it ruin the bonds you have.
Tell her how much you want to go back to how you two used to be and how much you long for her company again. Your best friends, right? Therefore you should stick together no matter what, for best friends love you not only for what you have, but also for your weaknesses that give them a room to give you support and be with you through thick and thin.
I wish for the very best in your friendship. ^^
Nara
Hello.
First of all, you said that you have a crush on him. Basically, crush is different from love, and I don't think you should be crying a river of tears for him if he really is just your crush.
I understand that it makes you feel worse that the person you like is going out with one of your friends, and that she, despite knowing how you felt, agreed on going out with him. If it is obvious that they are so into each other, I think it would be better for you to try to set aside your feelings for him, not to avoid any conflicts with them, but to avoid feeling worse. It's hard to wait for something you're not sure will come.
Moving on and forgetting the one you really like will not be easy. However, I assure you that it is possible if you out your heart into it and tell yourself, "I am meant for someone better who will appreciate me and will reciprocate my love for him."
You're still young. This particular feeling of yours might just be "puppy love", so they say. In the years to come, you will meet more people, expose yourself to all types of boys, and will eventually find the one whom you can say you love.
I hope this can improve your feelings. ^^
First of all, you said that you have a crush on him. Basically, crush is different from love, and I don't think you should be crying a river of tears for him if he really is just your crush.
I understand that it makes you feel worse that the person you like is going out with one of your friends, and that she, despite knowing how you felt, agreed on going out with him. If it is obvious that they are so into each other, I think it would be better for you to try to set aside your feelings for him, not to avoid any conflicts with them, but to avoid feeling worse. It's hard to wait for something you're not sure will come.
Moving on and forgetting the one you really like will not be easy. However, I assure you that it is possible if you out your heart into it and tell yourself, "I am meant for someone better who will appreciate me and will reciprocate my love for him."
You're still young. This particular feeling of yours might just be "puppy love", so they say. In the years to come, you will meet more people, expose yourself to all types of boys, and will eventually find the one whom you can say you love.
I hope this can improve your feelings. ^^
Moved To Tumblr
Hi guys!
I decided to move my advice blog to Tumblr since there are more active users on that site.
However, if it is more convenient, you can still visit me through this blog and you may still send your entries here.
See ya!
http://eotteokhae-whattodo.tumblr.com/
I decided to move my advice blog to Tumblr since there are more active users on that site.
However, if it is more convenient, you can still visit me through this blog and you may still send your entries here.
See ya!
http://eotteokhae-whattodo.tumblr.com/
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Aki
I can relate to you for I am the eldest among us as well.
Being the eldest can serve both as an advantage and a burden for us. Maybe you think it's more of a burden than an advantage. Then why don't we just use the advantages in order to lessen its burden on us?
Seeing your age range, I'm guessing your sister is still really young. You may be fighting over small things like who owns this, who owns that, who broke this, who broke that, who lost this, who lost that, who should have this, who should have that. However, there might be bigger issues that I am not aware of. Being the older one, I think you understand that you are responsible for keeping things in order between the two of you. But, what our parents can't understand sometimes is that our patience has its limit as well.
First, at the time of your argument with your sister, try to settle the situation by a simple talk. One of you speaks while the other listens. No one should interrupt the other because it may cause another set of shouts or whatsoever.
Second, if your little sister just won't listen and you just can't contain it anymore, talk to your parents. Don't go all out and say, "I hate my sister! She's such a b*tch!" No, don't do that. Ask them if they can spare you a minute and that you have to talk to them about your situation with your sister. Explain to them in detail the times that, according to you, your sister was the one at fault. Tell them how hard you're trying to keep a cool relationship with your sister, but she just won't cooperate.
Lastly, breathe. Younger siblings can definitely get into our nerves, but it is our responsibility to understand that we are older and we know better. If you feel like you're going to burst, hold your breath for 10 seconds, then breathe out. That should help you calm down and think more appropriately.
I hope my advice can help you have a better relationship with your family. ^^
Being the eldest can serve both as an advantage and a burden for us. Maybe you think it's more of a burden than an advantage. Then why don't we just use the advantages in order to lessen its burden on us?
Seeing your age range, I'm guessing your sister is still really young. You may be fighting over small things like who owns this, who owns that, who broke this, who broke that, who lost this, who lost that, who should have this, who should have that. However, there might be bigger issues that I am not aware of. Being the older one, I think you understand that you are responsible for keeping things in order between the two of you. But, what our parents can't understand sometimes is that our patience has its limit as well.
First, at the time of your argument with your sister, try to settle the situation by a simple talk. One of you speaks while the other listens. No one should interrupt the other because it may cause another set of shouts or whatsoever.
Second, if your little sister just won't listen and you just can't contain it anymore, talk to your parents. Don't go all out and say, "I hate my sister! She's such a b*tch!" No, don't do that. Ask them if they can spare you a minute and that you have to talk to them about your situation with your sister. Explain to them in detail the times that, according to you, your sister was the one at fault. Tell them how hard you're trying to keep a cool relationship with your sister, but she just won't cooperate.
Lastly, breathe. Younger siblings can definitely get into our nerves, but it is our responsibility to understand that we are older and we know better. If you feel like you're going to burst, hold your breath for 10 seconds, then breathe out. That should help you calm down and think more appropriately.
I hope my advice can help you have a better relationship with your family. ^^
Eck
Hi there. :)
First of all, I don't think you should tell him that you're not fond of seeing him with other girls because, like you said, you aren't officially dating. Plus, it is totally normal for someone to be closer to people of his opposite sex.
What I think you should do is observe how he treats you in comparison with his other female friends. Does he treat you in a more special way? Or are you one of the friends? I'm not trying to put you down, but it is always better to be sure because assuming can lead to an even greater problem.
Don't give up. Giving up is never an option in life. You may be confused right now, but that's why I'm asking you to confirm his feelings yourself. If you have the will and courage, you can ask him directly. If not, ask him through actions. You can see it in his texts or gestures towards you and the other girls. If you see only the same things, then I think it's better not to assume that you really have a "thing".
However, like I said, don't give up. Because you might see something now, but boys can hide their feelings way better than girls can.
I hope I've been of help to you even just a bit. :)
First of all, I don't think you should tell him that you're not fond of seeing him with other girls because, like you said, you aren't officially dating. Plus, it is totally normal for someone to be closer to people of his opposite sex.
What I think you should do is observe how he treats you in comparison with his other female friends. Does he treat you in a more special way? Or are you one of the friends? I'm not trying to put you down, but it is always better to be sure because assuming can lead to an even greater problem.
Don't give up. Giving up is never an option in life. You may be confused right now, but that's why I'm asking you to confirm his feelings yourself. If you have the will and courage, you can ask him directly. If not, ask him through actions. You can see it in his texts or gestures towards you and the other girls. If you see only the same things, then I think it's better not to assume that you really have a "thing".
However, like I said, don't give up. Because you might see something now, but boys can hide their feelings way better than girls can.
I hope I've been of help to you even just a bit. :)
Back From An Unplanned Hiatus!
Hi guys. :)
I apologize for being absent for 3 months now. I have been caught up with the beginning of my 4th year in high school that I barely have time to do leisure anymore.
But today, I am officially back.
Feel free to send your messages. :)
I apologize for being absent for 3 months now. I have been caught up with the beginning of my 4th year in high school that I barely have time to do leisure anymore.
But today, I am officially back.
Feel free to send your messages. :)
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